I’ve been a mom of 5 for 4 months now. I’ve learned a few things.
1. Embrace the chaos. Between the [very] loud boys, spitting up infant, wild man toddler, and 6 year old going on 16 daughter…..it’s always a bit chaotic. My friends worry when I invite their kids over to play. Lots of “Are you sure?” Yes, I’m sure. Yes, it’s chaotic. No, more chaos and crazy doesn’t bother me. And I like when my kids have people to play with. It may give me a chance to breathe.
2. Have minimal expectations. The house may be messy. Breakfast dishes may be out at dinner time. Laundry piles may go unfolded. And the dog hair dust piles will always exist. But I’ve realized when I focus on the laundry or clean dishes or mopped floors, I sacrifice time with my kids and opportunities to play with them. I’ve learned to have minimal expectations of myself.
3. The food. Oh, the food. I don’t think they feed zoo animals this much food. And one child doesn’t even eat yet. Help me, please, when they can all eat. My kids ate 7 pork chops last night. They ate through 2 cantaloupe in 3 days. I can’t keep up.
4. Errands and grocery shopping aren’t for the faint of heart. Really, doing those things with 4 kids was tricky. It’s even trickier when you add an infant in there. We just keep our hands in our pockets and everyone gets a job….holding a basket, putting bananas in the basket, pushing a cart, etc. And forget running an errand that involves me looking at something. Like the bathing suit shopping that hasn’t been done yet. My new motto….order online and have my husband return what doesn’t work.
5. Never, ever, ever be in a rush. Start loading the car fifteen minutes before you really need to leave. Have a diaper bag, then a diaper bag in the car in case you forgot something. I’ve learned to not rush my kids as much, even when they are SO slow I want to pull my hair out. Five kids really force you to embrace the moment you are in [because crossing the parking lot causes a 4 car back up].